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Finish This Sentence: “I’m Afraid to Feel…”

How to uncover repressed emotions from your past.

As children, we weren’t encouraged to feel our feelings.

Many of us heard this kind of feedback from our parents and caregivers:

  • “Stop crying about it.”
  • “It’s not that bad.”
  • “You’ve cried long enough.”

There was rarely inquiry about how we were feeling. This is especially common for those who were not raised true to their Type.

Due to this early feedback and training, we were conditioned to believe that we couldn’t show our emotions, and we have become very good at shutting them off and repressing them.

But as we mature and become more conscious, we are all learning how important our emotions are and also how to feel them.

Why We Need to Feel Our Feelings

By harboring and avoiding our emotions, they come up in their own way—oftentimes in a way that is not honoring to us or others! This could look like lashing out, passive-aggressive behaviors, jealousy, anxiety, or depression.

By allowing yourself to get in touch with your feelings, you can own them and heal them.

Many years ago, I began to allow myself to feel my feelings. When you give yourself permission to do this too, something incredible will happen:

Your emotions will heal you. Especially the ones you’re afraid to feel. Your stress levels drop and you feel more calm and peaceful.

So what can you do to begin?

An Empowering Exercise to Feel Your Feelings

I learned a simple exercise many years ago that will be incredibly useful when something is bothering you or when you’re upset. It allows us to zero in on our feelings, take accountability for them, and move through the feeling stage quite quickly.

The simple method is “Fill in the blank…”

Get your journal and just write the sentence over and over, filling in the blank each time:

  • I am afraid to feel _____________
  • I am afraid to feel _____________
  • I am afraid to feel______________

Do this anywhere from 10 to 20 times, writing quickly without thinking too hard or judging what comes up. This is called “automatic writing” and there are no wrong answers.

It might look something like this:

  • I am afraid to feel negative emotions.
  • I am afraid to feel vulnerable.
  • I am afraid to feel because I will get in trouble.
  • I am afraid to feel happy because it might not last.
  • I am afraid to feel excitement.
  • I am afraid to feel joy.

Yes, we can even be afraid to feel positive emotions!

Take some time right now and fill in the blank 10 times. See what comes up for you. Then sit with it. Feel it and heal it.

It is safe to feel your feelings.

I encourage you to continue to use this exercise regularly, especially when you feel you are holding something in. It has been a powerful tool to help me heal old hurts and feelings of shame and worthlessness, to allow me to live my life true to the beauty that God created me and YOU to BE.

As a Lifestyle member, you already know the powerful results that come from living your truth more fully. If you would like to explore your healing journey more deeply, it may be time for you to join my Healing Center. I created the Healing Plan for Childhood Wounding to help you heal the exact issues we talked about today. Join today and start your 14-day FREE trial.

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