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Finish This Sentence: “I’m Afraid to Feel…”

As children, we weren’t encouraged to feel our feelings. Many of us heard this kind of feedback from our parents:

  • “Stop crying about it.”
  • “It’s not that bad.”
  • “You’ve cried long enough.”

There was rarely inquiry about how we were feeling. Due to this early feedback and training, we were conditioned to believe that we couldn’t show our emotions, and we have become very good at shutting them off and repressing them.

But as we mature and become more conscious, we are all learning how important our emotions are and also how to feel them.

Why We Need to Feel Our Feelings

By harboring and avoiding our emotions, they come up in their own way — oftentimes in a way that is not honoring to us or others!

By allowing yourself to get in touch with your feelings, you can own them and heal them.

Many years ago, I began to allow myself to feel my feelings. When you give yourself permission to do this too, something incredible will happen:

Your emotions will heal you. Especially the ones you’re afraid to feel.

So what can you do to begin to feel your feelings?

An Empowering Exercise

I learned a simple exercise many years ago that is incredibly useful when something is bothering us or when we are upset. It allows us to zero in on our feelings, take accountability for them, and move through the feeling stage quite quickly.

The simple method is “Fill in the blank…”

Just write the sentence over and over, filling in the blank each time:

  • I am afraid to feel _____________
  • I am afraid to feel _____________
  • I am afraid to feel______________

Do this anywhere from 10 to 20 times.

It might look something like this:

  • I am afraid to feel negative emotions.
  • I am afraid to feel vulnerable.
  • I am afraid to feel because I will get in trouble.
  • I am afraid to feel happy because it might not last.
  • I am afraid to feel excitement.
  • I am afraid to feel joy.

Yes, we can even be afraid to feel positive emotions!

Take some time right now and fill in the blank 10 times. See what comes up for you.

Checking In

What came up for you? Feel it and heal it.

I encourage you to continue to use this exercise regularly, especially when you feel you are holding something in. It has been a powerful tool to help me heal old hurts and feelings of shame and worthlessness, to allow me to live my life true to the beauty that God created me and YOU to BE.

I recently launched The Carol Tuttle Healing Center. The video sessions and healing plans I’ve created will help you heal any of the issues above—and a hundred more. I invite you to start your first healing session today.

God Bless You,


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