Do you struggle with negative thoughts about yourself? It\u2019s important to be honest here. Most of us have many negative thoughts that we allow into our conscious, tearing down the way we look and making it hard not to fall into self-loathing. To change your relationship with yourself, you need to shift this energy. This blog will dive into body shaming and how you can stop the pattern of self-destruction that is dragging you down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shaming your body includes thinking bad thoughts about how you look, how your clothes fit, how people perceive you and what you weigh. Rather than appreciating the strength or beauty of your body in its current state, you spend time wishing certain features were different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But what causes that shaming?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are two main reasons you shame your body with negative thought patterns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
First of all, body shaming is entrenched in our cultural experience. You learn how to put yourself down as a child to lower expectations and avoid disappointment. Around the age of four, you will notice many young children start to notice the differences between themselves and others. Children at this age become very consumed with wondering why there are differences and wanting to be more like everyone around them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As you hit the pre-teen and puberty years, things change and you feel less sure of your skin. Suddenly, your hormones are raging, your body is changing and there are many new things to deal with\u2014like acne, weight gain and smelling glands. During this time, it\u2019s easy to compare yourself to others to feel better about yourself (\u201cAt least I don\u2019t have ____ like _____ does!\u201d)<\/em>. However, tearing others down in your mind leads to further insecurity about your own flaws or differences. On the other hand, if you were more likely to be a victim, then others tearing you down started to become your internal mantra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What we don\u2019t realize through all of these young years is that everyone feels like an imposter!<\/em> Sure, we have moments where we are \u201cfeeling ourselves,\u201d but this isn\u2019t most people\u2019s normal mode of operation. Most people feel nervous, unsure of themselves and unsure about what role they play in the world. We think most of the people around us have it together. Dig a little deeper, and you\u2019ll find many people have insecurities similar to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As adults, we\u2019ve lost ourselves and struggle to know where we fit. This plays out in how we choose to dress. You might think style seems very unrelated to mental health, but I\u2019ve found it can really help tie everything together and it is why I started Dressing Your Truth<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I spend time helping women learn about their Energy Type and body shape. When you truly love yourself and your body, you will want to take care of it and show it off in the best light. What you can realize through my program is that we are all different and should dress in the way that best reflects our inner person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In other words: something can be really cute and not work for you at ALL.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The wrong cut, movement, color or pattern can amplify the wrong characteristics and overshadow the things you should feature. For example, clothing can make you look drab, stuffy, fluffy, overweight, uncomfortable, stiff or overshadowed. At the same time, the right style can fully reflect your inner beauty and convey your personality to those around you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you haven\u2019t already taken my Energy Type Quiz<\/a>, do it now! Understanding this basic truth about yourself will really help you choose looks that just resonate deep within. This is going to make shopping and dressing an easier experience!<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s okay to want to change certain things. Maybe you want to lose weight or get in better cardio shape. Maybe you feel like you need a tummy tuck or want to tone your legs more. You can have goals and still love yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The problem is, we often ignore self-talk and jump right into the change we want to make\u2014as if the change is going to fix how we feel about ourselves! This leads to failed resolutions, self-sabotage and sinking further into the negative spiral.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Try reversing your pattern instead of repeating it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Start by changing your internal mantra about yourself. Remove the negative and replace it with positive thoughts. When you believe you can do something, you change the energy and increase the chances of success; rather than fight an uphill battle, you only have to complete the course you\u2019ve so clearly laid out before yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Only start pursuing your goals after you practice believing in yourself and seeing your self-worth for what it truly is. You will create the outcome you desire because you already know it is within your grasp. You are smart, you are strong, you are beautiful\u2014and you can achieve your goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To help you shift your thinking, I\u2019m going to teach you a quick clearing session to reset the energy. This is how you start changing out the negative self-talk and replacing it with positivity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You may not feel honest about loving every part of you at first. Stating \u201cI have glorious thighs\u201d or \u201cMy face is beautiful\u201d may feel uncomfortable and cheesy at first. However, when you practice the uplifting affirmations of self-love<\/a>, you will train your brain to start seeing the value and pushing out the negative comments. If you start to slip into negativity, practice a quick clearing session and reset.<\/p>\n\n\n\nYou Don\u2019t Dress for Your Shape and Energy Type<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
How to Learn to Love Your Body<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Change Your Thinking Patterns<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Clearing Session to Remove Negative Energy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n